The Power of Forgiveness

My healing work and life in general has taught me that forgiveness is often a concept that is greatly misunderstood.

As with all things in life,  acts of wrong-doing can be viewed upon a continuum ranging from a friend’s broken promise to causing the death of another.

Many view forgiveness as condoning a wrong-doing or often liken it to letting someone ‘off the hook’ who may have been the catalyst of great pain or suffering.

Surely that person deserves to be resented, hated even to fit the ‘crime’ so to speak, that’s only right isn’t it?

Imagine that these resentments actually form the bars of a cage around you…

Constraining and trapping you from living your best life…

Stopping you from appreciating the true beauty that is within you and around you.

Forgiveness is a mark of your STRENGTH not your weakness

I invite you to look at forgiveness from a new, perspective.

Forgiveness, even if taken in baby steps, can start to dissipate the bars of the cage, gradually allowing more light and beauty from outside to flood in and allowing your own sense of freedom and inner beauty to shine out into the world…

Forgiveness is a POWERFUL gift… When you forgive, you are deciding how you want to feel rather than allowing the actions of another to have a negative hold upon you…

Forgiveness means that you are powerfully deciding self empowerment versus being a victim…

Forgiveness can become your tonic, your strength, your Allie…

…your healing gift to move on.

We can forgive even in the midst of the worst abuse, we can use forgiveness to end the cycle of abuse “abuse begets abuse”, to let go of the need to punish, to be right and, so importantly, the need to keep suffering because of the past”  Pearl Howie

My good friend Pearl Howie is a Travel and Wellbeing Writer and eloquently expresses her own experiences of forgiveness within her guide ‘Camino de la Luna – Forgiveness’

Camino De La Luna is Spanish for ‘Path of the Moon’.

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Are resentments holding you back in your own life?  Is resentment and anger towards ex partner/s holding you back from welcoming the love of your life into your life? I’d love to help you move forwards…

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Attracting Love is an Inside Job

Flashback to almost a decade ago…I’d lost count of the times I’d been asked that elusive question…

“so why are you single?”

… surely if I knew the answer to it, I wouldn’t be single would I!!

To top off my euphoria about being ‘permanently single’ my late Grandmother, Nanny Doll,  who was a wonderfully loving Nan (albeit a little blunt at times) would often inqure about my love-life….

Nan: “so, have you met a nice man yet?”

Me: “been on a few dates but not met anyone I really, really like, you  know….”

Nan:… *dramatic pause*….“one of my cousins was a Spinster”

Me:  “Thanks Nan!”

Luckily my friends thought I was cool…(some of the time anyway) they called me ‘The Dating Queen’ and thought my personal life was exciting…they enjoyed hearing about my dating calamities and tales.

I really was a real-life Dating Expert, I’d even ‘starred in’ and won Wedding TV’s Realty Series ‘Around The World In 80 Dates’ where I had to find a man to undergo a dating challenge in each port on a sailing trip around the Med’!

It sounds much more glamorous than it actually was… though I can honestly say, I’ve literally been there, done it and bought the T-shirt in terms of dating and doing everything you’re meant to do to find find love.

On a date for the TV show!

Although I’d had a few three month relationships through my teens and up to my early thirties and went on plenty of dates that lead nowhere, I was single for the majority of that time and had become so disillusioned with love…. I began to think love just wasn’t meant to happen for me.

 

Ultimately it was my frustration, unconscious fears and sadness about not being able to ‘find love’ that was the catalyst that put me on a path of spiritual development and self healing.

In 2011, after browsing the internet, I came across a Spiritual Teacher called Blaire Alison, based in America, known as The Love Guru.  She specialises in helping people attract love through a spiritual approach.   It so happened that we had our first session together in Blackfriars in London, as she was in London for two weeks.  Now that’s what I call divine timing!

For the next three months I received spiritual counselling and healing which kickstarted my spiritual development journey.   Before working with Blaire, I didn’t even know exactly what healing was or how it worked though what I did know, was that I couldn’t carry on doing what I was doing and this new approach to love felt lighter with a sense of hope rather than continued disappointment.

Through the work Blaire and I did together, I found the real me… I began to understand and recognise my spiritual gifts and began to clear away old thought patterns that were no longer serving me around love and relationships….

The truth is that LOVE and attracting LOVE is an INSIDE JOB.

“Many times people are looking for their partner, their ideal partner, their soulmate and they say they can’t find them.  They’re looking and they’re looking and they can’t find them.  Well, if your soul mate is not knocking on your door; it’s because you’re not ready.  It’s not that you’re not looking hard enough.  We have to prepare for that to happen in our life.  And the preparation for finding the right person in your life, connecting with them is being the right person”  John Gray

After my spiritual awakening with The Love Guru,  over the next few years I  continued self healing and my spiritual development journey through reading, self development and educating myself through many holistic training courses.

Essentially I was simultaneously continuing to heal my heart whilst building my new purposeful career as a Healer and Soulpreneur…

What I now know for certain is that the more you pine for, long for, focus on the lack of the relationship, the more you actually repel what you seek.

You could look like Angelina Jolie, have the voice of Maria Carey, the brains of Carol Vordeman, the personality of  Dawn French, the cooking (and sex appeal!) of Nigela Lawson….

and still not attract a Soulmate if:

…you are continually focused on the lack of a relationship and how unfair it is

…you have consistent, negative inner-dialogue about self-worth, love and relationships

…you have fears  (known or unknown) around love, relationships or intimacy

…you’re continually ‘on the look out’ for your man

…he must be out there somewhere right?

I’ve learned everything there is to know about love and attracting a beautiful romantic soulmate relationship into my life.

I have been single for quite some time, and the Align to Love Programme came along at just the right time. Working with Hayley over the last 4 months has been enlightening especially with the Soul Plan Reading. She provides a wonderful space to explore what might have been holding me back in creating the relationship I desire. I now feel much more connected to myself and am ready to invite a loving relationship into my life. Thank you Hayley, and I look forward to more energy sessions with you !  Natasha, London

 

Step by step I transformed my mindset and changed my entire outlook and attitude towards ‘finding love’… I learned how to take only ‘aligned action’ that was in tune with my Heart and Soul and learned how to effortlessly attract the love of my life into my life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

….Three years ago on the 16th May, I  effortlessly met my wonderfully handsome, supportive, kind, talented and funny Soulmate (and partner in crime!)

Dave, and I have just celebrated our anniversary during a holiday in the beautiful and romantic country that is Montenegro, situated on the Adriatic Coast.

Many times I thought I was never going to meet my Soulmate…

I don’t want you to have to go through what I did…

There is an easier, lighter way…

I have complete faith in you…

You have all the resources within you to welcome a soulmate relationship into your life.

If you want to have a meaningful relationship, stop looking for the right person.  I’ll repeat that; if you want to have a meaningful relationship, stop looking for the right person, but become the right person”

Deepak Chopra

Would you like my support to help you Align To Love so you are completely prepared to welcome a beautiful soulmate relationship into your life?

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With much love